The chinese have to to pray to their departed ancestors at the cemetary once a year during Qing Ming Festival that falls on 三月初三 (according to the chinese lunar calender) - which means it falls on the 5th April this year. The ritual will be carried 10 days before and 10 days after the actual date.
Since daddy passed away in 2001, we normally visits him at the Sendayan Cemetary on any weekends, 10 days before the actual date. The place will be packed with people and cars as early as 5am. They will bring food, paper luxury items and hell notes to burn to the deceased. Parking will be a problem but luckily there are some volunteers who help to ease the traffic issues. Normally, we will leave our home as early as 5.45am so that the prayers will end before sunrise.
When grandpa (daddy's father) passed away in 2008, we have to visit the graveyard together with all the uncles (daddy's brothers). We need to pray ah kong first then daddy to respect the older deceased. Thanks to some of the uncles as we get Vitamin D at daddy's graveyard every year. I don't understand why they can't wake up earlier as planned. It's a yearly event, one only need to wake up as early as 5am once a year. Why make other people wait since there are 2 graveyards to pray ? Isn't it not fair for us as we have to clean daddy's under the hot sun ? Some uncles even don't care about the festival and never turn up to pay respect to their own father. Hence, everything to be arranged by mummy. Poor lady have to do all the buying and packing for 2 deceased. Some uncles are kind enough to appreciate what mummy did but some don't even bother to say thank you and don't want to pay all the expenses. I really hate these selfish people who takes advantage on mummy !!
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